Do you always seem to attract wrong guys? You think he's Mr. Right but he turns out to be a nerve cracker or a loser. Perhaps he disappoints you by being unfaithful or he just won't commit to you for some strange reasons.  And what's more, you've found yourself putting up with being treated badly and compromising yourself.

If you feel unsuccessful and dissatisfied with your love life, maybe it's high time for you to take a few steps back to see where things went wrong. If you think you've been doing everything right- Think again! If you look back, you will be surprised to learn that you got so caught up in the bad dating game, that you forgot what to look out for and neglected your true needs and desires. What are you really looking for in a lover? What qualities are important for a person to have and what other qualities are you willing to compromise with and accept?

Michelle Obama says money and reputation amount to absolutely nothing in terms of achieving happiness. If a woman marries a man for his bank account or his title / position, then she's most certainly doomed to a life of sentimental mediocrity.

On the other hand, if she wants to know more about the man she thinks she loves, then all a woman has to do is look at how he treats his mother to "look into his soul." 'Cute's good. But cute only lasts for so long and then it's 'Who are you as a person? Don't look at the bank book or the title. Look at the heart. Look at the soul. Look at how the guy treats his mother and what he says about women. How he acts with children he doesn't know. And more important, how does he treat you? Mrs. Obama says by means of a few basic dating tips.

She, for one, knew from the start that Barack Obama was her Mr. Perfect, no matter the hardships they had to face at one point or another. "He was always special, you know" And not special like, he's going to be important, he's gonna be president. He was special in terms of his honesty, his sincerity, his compassion for other people. When you're dating a man you should always feel good. You should never doubt yourself." Michelle Obama explains.

Another important aspect that all women should bear in mind is to never make compromises when it comes to their happiness. If a particular man they're dating doesn't make them "completely happy," then this is the clearest sign that marriage is a mistake. Cited: Softpedia, 2012.

Reading the signs

It takes time to know someone, you won't know the person immediately but there are always signs if you are clear headed enough to know what to look for. Checkout the following signs:

• Infatuation or lust

If there are things wrong in the relationship that you just don't want to see. You make excuses for all those little signs that it just won't work in the long term. Or maybe you've been falling into the trap of the 'I'm the one who can change him!' (This is perhaps the biggest relationship trap of them all). Infatuation stops you from thinking straight. Strong emotion is what makes you pick the wrong guy and stops you seeing what's really going on. You end up feeling hurt, stupid, making excuses for him and blaming yourself. Is this what you really need?

• Respect, reliability and trust

So if reliability and trust are important to you then does his behavior generally meet your criteria? If the answer is no then you need to really look at what's going on and keep a part of yourself detached. True love takes time to develop - infatuation and desperation blind you.

Assuming the fellow is unattached, not licking old wounds, and not drinking more than a little, start slow and get to know him. Emotional attachment clouds rational judgement, so use your head before your heart. As you get to know each other through dating, make your own preferences known. See if you share in decisions and if your input is accepted and valued. If decision-making is all one-sided there is a big clue that you do not have a voice in the relationship. Further, if values and goals are different or if there are behaviours at issue, discuss them. If they cannot be resolved now, sex, marriage, cohabiting or having children will not make them any better. You might be better off leaving now and starting the process again.

Finding Mr. Right requires choices. It is essential that you know what you want. Don't settle. Don't just date in the name of dating. If you find that you are not sharing the connection - that spark - you crave with a person, then you must stop seeing him! Don't worry about him. You are the most important person in your life and you must do what's best for you.

Sources:

• Softpedia
• Hypnosisdownloads
• Yoursocialworker
• MSN

Page Created: 14 February 2012