Loving yourself

Being loved because of who you are, and not because of what you have achieved, own or look like, is one of the basic human needs. As an adult it is your responsibility to take ownership of yourself in this need. We can start loving ourselves by understanding what our individual needs are. We need to acknowledge the things that make us feel fulfilled and make life worth living.

When you don't love yourself, you are basically telling the world that you are unworthy or undeserving of any love or positive outcomes. Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and live a fulfilled life. When you do not love yourself and suffer from low self esteem, it is almost impossible to ever reach the potential that you think you have.

When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.

1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you smile, what makes you special. You are just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself despite all your "flaws". Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.

2. Get rid of self criticism. Do you often criticize yourself over the smallest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes? If you find that you criticize yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.

3. Be Kind and positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself every day, while in the front of the mirror. Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.

4. Let go of worry. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. Worry does not help in any way.  So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then ask God for your desired outcome and let things work out on their own. Things will work out, if they are meant to be.

5. Let's choose to celebrate the best in ourselves and others, focusing and celebrating our strengths and talents and giving little attention to our weaknesses. Cited: Abundancetapestry, 2011.


Page Updated: 22 February